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She's no teenager, and I have to admit I'd thought she would know better. At one point or another, we've all had it haven't we? And I have no idea how we, well educated in the dangers of unprotected sex and way past our teens, have got to this stage.

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I am shocked, when canvassing my friends, that in taking the contraceptive pill I am in the minority. They are just styling it out. I'll admit, I've been lackadaisical with contraception myself Dad, if that isn't enough to make you stop reading now, then I don't know what is and have taken the morning-after pill six or seven times perhaps that?

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In the UK, sexually transmitted infections are on the rise among all age groups, as is the abortion rate. Public Health England What they want is sex three raw that this is in part to due to improved data collection, but also warns that "the continuing high STI rates in England suggest too many people are still putting themselves at risk through unsafe sex, especially young adults and men who have sex with men".

That young people engage in risk-taking behaviour will be a surprise to no one, of course, but what is interesting is that we're seeing such behaviours in those who are mature and responsible in other parts of their lives. We pay our rent and bills on time, we hold down careers — but responsible contraception use seems to be a stumbling block.

We don't have the excuse of a lack of education to fall back on. While there are problems with the way sex education is taught, vagueness about contraception and the mechanics of sex does not appear to be one of them many people I spoke to recall the infamous cartoon Johnny Condom song, a source of much classroom hilarity.

Some even claim that twentysomethings are the poster demographic for unprotected sex. As monikers go, I have to admit it's not my favourite, but it does resonate.

Most of What they want is sex three raw friends have admitted to having used this fallible and messy technique to avoid pregnancy, while some rely on it as their only method of contraception. They see orgasms as a right, not a privilege. In my group of friends, it seemed to be something that occurred accidentally or due to poor organisation. I was interested to find out whether or not we are seeing a more conscious shift away from hormonal contraceptive methods in favour of the pull-out method.

But that was more than five years ago. Could it be true that women are being turned off the pill and condoms, too? Among the many twentysomethings I spoke to from all over the UK, it would appear so.

Alex, 24, a charity worker, says that unprotected sex is something that she and her partner go through in phases, "depending on how sensible either of us is feeling at the time", and that a dislike of condoms is a factor.

She has relied on the What they want is sex three raw method in the past and has had chlamydiagonorrhea and one pregnancy scare. She has made a conscious decision not to take the pill: Perhaps it's the fact that they can change your mood. Elise, 32, uses withdrawal with her long-term partner and is similarly laid-back.

She is perhaps what you'd call "pregnancy ambivalent": I couldn't settle on one and had to keep going back to the doctor with bleeding. I ended up saying I'd take a break and never went back.

When Elise was younger, it was different. Although she says she was worried about getting pregnant, she did have unprotected sex at least five times. It was, she says, a period "characterised by carelessness and drunken decisions at a time where I didn't feel anything bad would happen to me.

I think some of the men would rather I had insisted we use a condom but didn't speak up themselves. I think she thought my reaction was inappropriate. But it's not just youth that can make you feel invulnerable, as Danni, 32, a communications manager, explains: I've had unprotected sex with about 15 men, in relationships and casually, and I can say I've used a condom about three times.

Guys seem to hate them, and sometimes, I'm too drunk or turned on to care. Gina, 29, an IT helpdesk supervisor, has had unprotected sex while drunk but says she wouldn't do it now, having What they want is sex three raw contracted chlamydia. I can understand young people in their teens feeling too embarrassed or intimidated to broach the subject of condoms, but I expected women who are a bit older to feel more confident and assertive when it came to contraception.

At times, the young women I spoke to seemed to resent feeling that they had to take responsibility for contraception. A failure to communicate was a common factor, which makes me question whether What they want is sex three raw sex education — which focuses very much on the mechanics — might have a lot to answer for after all.

I also wonder if porn — not renowned for its on-screen condom use — might play a part. Sex educators seem hellbent on convincing young people that condoms can be sexy and often provide them with tips and tricks to make the experience more erotic. Perhaps they'd be better off encouraging better conversations. It wasn't that anyone I spoke to didn't know how to use condoms, or that they were one of the few methods that protected against STIs, it was that they didn't feel they had the language to talk about them.

Gina said she felt unable to bring up the topic: Never in my whole time of sleeping with guys has one of them done it or offered.